When I decided two weeks ago to re-focus on gratitude, it was my way of healing my way back to normal. Gratitude has been a life-saver for me in the past and I knew it work again to move me away from grief, take away anger and frustration and make me more positive. As I began to look to think about doing this I realized that I must let go off all expectations I had. Expectations from life, from others and most of all from myself. As Kristi Nelson says, “When we release expectation and experience appreciation, all the moments of our lives become openings and opportunities”.
Expectations lead to frustration, anger, guilt and remorse and I’ve been going through all of these.
When I expect someone to respond to me with openness and they’re evasive, I feel frustrated and even angry. When things don’t go the way I planned, I am disappointed?
While I do try to work on improving the quality of my life and work, because I know, as Aldous Huxley said, “There is only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self.” But I have certain expectations of myself – plans and goals – when they’re not met I get frustrated or feel guilty.
I’m sure you can relate.
Letting go of expectations, choosing to look around and appreciate all I have, and even trying to see what I can learn out of ‘bad’ situations, that’s the path of gratitude.
This has been my mantra for the last couple of weeks:
I am greatly blessed I am highly favoured I am deeply loved And so grateful.