“Sometimes we just have to let things go” is something I’ve come to believe very strongly. This is especially true about relationships. I’ve gone from attempting to force people love and respect me, to choosing to love and respect myself first. I’ve learned to realize when to quit a relationship and thought I’d share my ideas with you.
Know When To Quit A Relationship
We often hold on to people in our lives because we value them and we have learned to love them. But, when to quit a relationship? When to know it’s time to leave someone important? When do you stop letting into your life?
When there is abuse.
The abuse need not to be physical. Abuse comes in different forms; it could be verbal or psychological. It could be when a person keeps on getting from you without giving back. It’s when you feel used up after spending your time with them.
When there is no respect.
Whether it’s relationship with friends or your significant other or even with a relative, respect must always be present. When there is no respect, boundaries are crossed, and your rights as a person are violated. Quit a relationship where respect is not present anymore.
When there is no commitment.
If you’re the only person committed to make the relationship work out, then it’s time to quit. A relationship is a two-way street. It is a partnership. When the other person feels like he’s free to do whatever he wants at your expense, or does not make you a part of his plans, it means he’s not committed to you.
When you’re changing in a bad way.
A relationship should be nurturing. It shouldn’t worsen you or kill you softly. It should bring you joy and not sorrow, because what’s the point of spending your life with a person if it only makes you miserable?
When you hold each other back.
In life, staying stuck is as good as being dead. When your partner or someone in your life keeps you from reaching your goals, it’s time to quit them. When you find yourself holding back your partner from becoming a better person, it’s time to re-evaluate your motives.
What keeps you in a relationship? What is it that makes you think it’s time to leave? If you’re not happy, if you’re not becoming a better version of yourself, maybe it’s time to walk out the door and never come back. Know when to quit a relationship so you can make room for the good people to come into your life.
You might also like to read the digital version of my article from ‘Complete Wellbeing’ : 5 signs that your friend is just pretending to like you.
It’s Friday today and although Sanchie Vee and I had decided to take a break from #FridayReflections through April, I decided to it slightly differently. I’m putting up a linky – and asking you to write on any of the older prompts that you may have liked and missed. I’ll have the same linky up all month through, just on fresh posts. Also, I’m asking for a link back to my blog in your post to prevent people who are writing ‘off prompt’ from adding their links.
If you want to know more about #FridayReflections and find prompts to write on, I’ve created a page with the ‘rules’ and the prompts. So go ahead and have a ball. Remember, to link up here so we can all enjoy your writing.
This post is in response to the prompt “Sometimes we just have to let things go” from 3 June 2016.
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Good pointers Corinne. I know some people who cling to relationships when they need not lose their self respect.will share your post on social media.
I’ve been one of those people, Ramya.
Thank you for sharing.
Agree with all your points, Corinne.
I’d also like to add communication & trust. When these are absent, relationships suffer…
I’ve had to end some so-called friendships in the past. It was hard at the time, but in the long run the best thing I’ve ever done.
Sanchie @ Living my Imperfect Life
Those are some valuable tips to recognise when it’s time to call it quits. Food for thought indeed…
Your checklist is apt – and ppl should quit than stay. but why is it so hard to give up on another person? A relationship? and why is it so hard to let go? We see this so often.
Like Ness said above, it is hard at the time, but in the long run one will realise that it is the best thing.
Letting go of a painful relationship is actually good for both. I will certainly quit a relationship when there is no trust. Great insights, Corinne !!!
Corinne, I’ve had to say goodbye to a few old friends and it was always painful, but necessary. One litmus test is when you find yourself ruminating days later over an unkind remark or snarky comment. If that happens a lot with someone, then you know this person is no longer right for your life. Thanks for these reminders.