With encouragement from a friend, I had finally read and began to appreciate the truths of that powerful little book – The Power of the Subconscious Mind (affiliate link) by Joseph Murphy. One of the lessons I had learned from that book was that the subconscious mind is like a magnet. It attracts things that resonate with its beliefs. Most of all I realized that I had the power to choose my response to situations.
A suggestion in the book was to write down a list of ‘Affirmations’. You basically create a positive statement to counteract your negative belief. Let’s say, you are struggling with stage fright and believe that every time you stand up in public you make a fool of yourself. Your mind keeps telling you that you suffer from stage fright. Your affirmation should say, “I am confident” or “I am a great speaker”. Don’t use a negative statement like “I don’t have stage fright”. You voice your positive affirmations on a regular basis and the subconscious mind, according to Murphy, won’t argue with you. Instead you will become confident.
Well, that was the theory. How did it work in practice, I wondered.
The Power to Choose
So I decided to ‘test’ this out. I was in my forties already and there seemed to be no sign of Mr Right. So after meeting a series of ‘wrongs’, I was beginning to believe there was something wrong with me. And in a way there was. Based on my negative beliefs about myself, my subconscious mind was exercising its Law of Attraction, and ‘inviting’ the wrong type into my life. So I made out a couple of affirmations. One of them included the statement, “I am married to someone I love.”
These are the two quotes I put up on the soft board in my room end July 2006. I would wake up every morning and read these.
The Universe will pay you to be yourself and be what you really want. ~ Shakti Gawain
You are never given a dream without being given the power to make it come true~ Richard Bach
Remember, that was end July 2006? Before I went to bed every night and when I got up every morning, I read the two quotes on the soft board and repeated the affirmations to myself. Want to know what happened? The next month, I ‘met’ this guy online and in a week’s time we decided to get married, even before we met in person! January 2007 we were married. The power of the subconscious mind at work!
Well, in case you think I’m saying, we can all play God – no. But the God I believe in promises us fullness of life. And He certainly doesn’t want us to go around thinking negatively and attracting pain. He gives us the Power to Choose.
We have the power to choose. Choose to let our mind be busy with fears, doubts, resentment and pettiness or make a conscious effort to reprogram it to be positive. We can lead ‘quiet lives of desperation’ or enjoy fullness of life and bring joy and meaning to ourselves and others.
Gratitude for whatever we might be going through is also a choice. By being grateful for a painful situation, are saying that we believe that everything works towards our good. What can we learn from the pain and how can we move on – is all up to us to choose.
This is Day 43 of My 66-day Journey of Healing Through Writing and Sharing.