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The Life Of The Party?

A grand aunt of ours was Ms Malaprop. An uncle of mine would report her latest malapropism and would sometimes invent his own stories and ‘blame’ it on her. Here’s one that I’m not sure was hers or his, but it’s the first thing I thought of on this topic. A Malaprop was upset with her daughter for not getting up to dance at a party and was heard saying: “Now, Judy go and dance. Don’t stand at the back like a cauliflower!”

English: cauliflower
English: cauliflower (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

So, if you were to ask me if I’m the life of the party, I’d say, I’m definitely a cauliflower! I prefer to hang on the side-lines and and chat with a small group.

It’s not that I have a problem being the centre of attraction. No, I’ve done my sharing of training and talking to large audiences of various kinds. But at a party, I’m certainly nowhere near the action.

I recently discovered that I’m a closet introvert! What’s that you ask? An introvert pretending to an extrovert! The funny thing is, when I told my husband that, he said, “I know you’re not an extrovert.” And I thought I was self-aware!

What I love doing at parties, the few I go to anyway, is people-watching. After I’ve started blogging, that becomes good fodder for writing!

Are you the life of the party or do you like to sit back and be entertained? Share a party story!


I’m taking part in BlogFEST 2012 – the biggest blog party in October! Today’s host is the lovely, Jenn Duffy-Pearson of Wine n Chat. Read her post here. 



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66 Comments on “The Life Of The Party?

  1. Well, I am a closet introvert too!! People watching is my fav activity when in a large group.
    Earlier, when I was just an introvert and not a CI 😉 , people would have assumptions that being quiet and not the chatterbox types meant that I was not enjoying the party! 😐

  2. Loved your post – always thought it was a wallflower. Now I know a party people watcher as a cauliflower. LOL
    Great story. Oh yes, I am also out of the closet now :-)!

  3. I dont think i am an introvert.I like to enter a party a bit late.I want to be noticed.
    I am at my loudest.I always hold my glass untill end of the party but never get drunk or even high.

  4. Introvert I guess, but yes, after a while I get into the mood too. 🙂

    But yes, my parents were the first ones on the dance floor and total extroverts, and I guess my younger sister has taken up after them. 🙂

    1. Would like to see you getting into the mood, Harleena. I am great with a small group. Large parties are not my scene. And seriously, all our training in social skills, via the Army is a great help when it comes to pretending to like a party! 😉

  5. I am definitely the introvert and the shy person around. I would not even go to a party where I don’t know anyone :). But, with friends I am a very different person!

  6. Corinne– Thanks so much for participating on the first day of BlogFEST 2012!!

    Second a closet introvert? I need to think about that. Here I thought I’ve “morphed” over the years from the life of the party to the one being entertained–doing as you do– just talking to a few people on the side lines. Hmmmm…I’m wondering if I’m not a closet introvert to some extent?

    Great post 🙂 Cheers, Jenn

    1. Jenn – it’s absolutely my pleasure. Thanks for hosting this. It’s already so much fun. Perhaps you are a closet introvert too. I realized this about myself only when I read a post about introversion and kept ticking off things that fitted me!

  7. Been there done that…Corinne :)) I just love the way you weave your story around the topic and make it look like a completely awesome post.

    1. Ah, thanks, Sulekha! You’re always good for my ego. 🙂 I’m so glad you’re taking part in the BlogFest. I’m looking forward to seeing that picture of yours. Although something tells me I’ve seen it already!

  8. I definitely avoid any social gathering, but if I’m forced into that situation it solely depends on my mood. If I’m upbeat, then I can be the life of the party…if I’m solemn, then I tend to hang back and stay to myself.

    1. I found myself getting increasingly reclusive, Mary and decided to get out more often. I do enjoy meeting friends in small groups, but large gathering are avoidable! I would love to be with you at a party, someday! 🙂

  9. Hmmm…closet introvert. Maybe that’s me! I don’t know…I think I like staying in the closet most of the time and just peak out at the world from time to time. Great post! Thanks for sharing!

  10. I could so identify with you here, Corinne! Years ago, I would have said I was an extrovert; not any more! Like you, I prefer to chat one on one or with small groups at gatherings and just observe the action around me. So, here’s another introvert who’s come out of the closet! 🙂
    Great post!

  11. Hi, Corinne! ~

    People are often surprised to learn that I am also an introvert so I know exactly what you mean! Being an introvert doesn’t mean I’m ‘shy’ or don’t like people. It means I need solitude to recharge, whereas an extrovert recharges on the energy of groups.

    I would not say I’m usually the life of the party, but sometimes I am. However, friends and acquaintances often comment that they can hear me laughing all the way in the other room and that adds life to the party 😉

    1. That’s a great way of defining the difference between an introvert and an extrovert, Linda. It’s so true – I need to process experiences on my own to understand what they mean to me. Someday, I’m going to hear you laugh at that Blogplicity party we’re going to have. What a party that will be! 🙂

  12. I love people and talking and learning their stories. But I’m much more comfortable doing so in smaller group settings. When I get into larger groups I tend to clam up and seek out the weirdos sitting in the corner for conversation.

  13. Lov it….closet introvert! LOL

    I do enjoy people watching, but I go both ways at parties. Totally depends on who else is partying and how!

  14. I can be the life of the party… regale people with funny jokes, do tequila shots and then dance, but I give no part of me to other people! For that, I am an introvert….I am happy with myself and I don’t need others to derive energy from! Make sense?

  15. I defy labels! I am an extrovert but still don’t talk much in parties until I am really interested. Parties bore me to no end and I always think of escaping. Maybe I am a closet extrovert.

    Does my comment make sense?

    Joy always,

  16. Oh, I agree people watching is like food for thought! I love doing it too, being a cauliflower myself 😛 I like to be entertained, rather than being the entertainer 😀

  17. I’m never the life of the party. But, I’ve learned to just enjoy life at the party. So, I talk to people, but if there’s music I must dance.

  18. While I was reading ‘Quiet’ quietly, this is where all the discussion was happening ! You have the soft power Corinne ,I can vouch for that ! Loved reading this.

  19. Not an introvert for sure, but not an extrovert either. 🙂 I would go and mingle with everyone, wish everyone that I know there, but wouldn’t be the first one to dance or make hulchal. Never knew Cauliflower was used to refer like this..hahah

    1. I too go and say hello to everyone and then retire to my observer’s point, Latha. My aunt wanted to say ‘wallflower’, but with her penchant for malapropisms, she said ‘cauliflower’. 😉

  20. It might seem like it at first, but I, and my colleagues agree, am definitely not a cauliflower (*Oh, were did my short sentence go? :P)

    I think I could maintain my balance. I give the floor to the host 😉 But when in a party, I socialize. Even my ex told me I’ll wilt if I don’t talk 😛

    *Love the cauliflower. I’m also an introvert 🙂

  21. Corinne ! I am getting all the images of your observation, in my mind, while I am reading this post. I am not an extrovert and I am really not comfortable and happy in large gatherings, but I do enjoy the company of close friends in a party. I would definitely acknowledge the presence of others, but may not be the centre of attraction.

    This was an enjoyable post, for it brought in a lot of memories, smile and laughter and am still hearing some of your observations that I can never forget in my life ! Thanks for adding a lot of humor to my life ! you made my day !!!!!

    1. Oh Janet, it depends on where the party is right? 😉 I think with a group of friends it’s so different. But large gatherings are where I prefer the corners, where I can be wicked quietly! 😉

  22. If it is a family get together I am definitely the life of the party as I am known in my house for being the 24 X 7 FM channel which simply refuses to stop playing… I can go on and on and on… but if it is a professional party I am happy being a mute spectator. I don’t know why I don’t feel comfortable sharing my that side with everyone. I smile and talk with everyone but nothing beyond that.

    And not to forget I simply love dancing. So grooving to some nice music is ofcourse included in both the parties 😉

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