The Idea Of Wholeheartedness

Since the word wholehearted meant ‘with complete sincerity and commitment’, I thought that wholeheartedness was an extention of that. My idea of wholeheartedness changed when I read Brené Brown’s work.

Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough. It’s going to bed at night thinking, Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.

– Brené Brown, Daring Greatly

The Idea Of Wholeheartedness

To realize my own worth and also realize that it’s okay to be imperfect and vulnerable is a constant struggle. There are days, I feel like a loser. Especially, on days when I can’t live up to what I’ve promised myself to do.

But I’m slowly learning that the doing is not as important as the being. My worth is not decided by my output.And I decide it’s okay to have off days, weeks or even a month. It’s okay to be kind to myself and spend a large part of the day reading or anything else I enjoy.

I extend kindness to myself by resting and relaxing. And not feeling guilty about it.

Emily Freeman shared this recently on Instagram:

If you find yourself embarking on some kind of funk, here are some words to hold onto:

You were doing fine until you weren’t and you want to find your way back to the light. There is no back, there’s only forward. The light is ahead of you. Keep going. It’s okay if you don’t know why you’re feeling some kind of way. Not everything has a story. Some things just are. If you’re getting on your own nerves, remember no one has ever been shamed into freedom. God is not mad at you. You are not too much. Relentlessly refuse to scold yourself. Instead, look for beauty as if your life depended on it. Maybe it does today. Here’s to going outside, taking deep breaths, telling someone the whole truth, and being all the way kind to yourself.

In October, I started writing a series called 31 Days about Living A Principle Driven Life. Since I wasn’t able to complete it then, I’m doing so now. You can follow my posts here.