One of the messages that I recevied from reading Dr. Brené Brown’s ‘The Gifts Of Imperfection’ is to go easy on myself and not allow myself to be burdened by guilt or shame. Which is precisely why, I’ve allowed myself to take a break from writing here, although I started out with announcing that I’m going to write 66 days straight. It didn’t happen. I’m 10 days behind schedule. Life got in the way. I’m not giving up. I plan on completing this exercise even if it gets delayed for a bit.
The Gifts Of Imperfection
Imagine the freedom that comes from releasing the shackles of societal expectations and fully embracing your authentic self. Envision living a life brimming with authenticity and wholeheartedness. How would it feel? What would this life look like? Who would you become? InThe Gifts of Imperfection (affiliate link), Dr. Brown unravels the greatest hurdles to genuine living and guiding us in cultivating resilience. Through ten insightful chapters, or guideposts, Brown encourages us to let go of the weight of others’ opinions, foster gratitude, shed the burden of exhaustion and anxiety, and nurture happiness.
A recurring and cherished theme in the book is what Brown refers to as the “dig-deep button.” You’re likely familiar with this metaphorical button—the one you press when you feel too weary to face another middle-of-the-night ordeal, tackle more household chores, or meet another obligation. Instead of advocating for breaking this button, Brown encourages us to dig deep in a wholehearted way. Rather than pushing through the challenges with sheer determination, she suggests slowing down, acting deliberately, finding inspiration, and taking meaningful action. This not only validates our experiences but also provides a pathway to navigate these moments with grace and authenticity.
The book gives us a profound sense of hope. Regardless of the tasks left undone, her message remains clear—we are enough. Embracing our imperfections and vulnerabilities doesn’t diminish our worth; rather, it reinforces the truth that each of us is deserving of love and belonging.
How does the book tie in with my healing?
As I read through the book, I realized how deep rooted perfectionism was in me and how addictive and self-destructive this could be. It helped me acknowledge my vulnerability and start working on healing from guilt and shame that plagued my life. It reempasised the need for self-compassion.
“Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.”― Brené Brown
This is a book I’d definitely recommend for anyone on the journey towards healing from emotional pain.
This is Day 26 of My 66-day Journey of Healing Through Writing and Sharing.