The world that we live in today has glorified multitasking, overachieving and being busy all the time. This has led to an increased level of constant competition literally everywhere – in schools, workplaces and even in our personal lives. Often, we find ourselves comparing all those parts of our lives to other people’s seemingly perfect ones. The result, we feel dissatisfied, angry and even guilty. If that sounds like something you’re going through read on to discover how you can stop competing and set yourself free – finally!
How To Stop Competing And Set Yourself Free
Practising gratitude on a daily basis has many benefits, and best of all, it helps you focus more on what you have and appreciate it, rather than looking at what you don’t have. Commit yourself to being grateful for the little things in life everyday– once you start doing that, you’ll feel less susceptible to comparison, jealousy, envy and other such negative emotions that rob you of your joy.
Embrace your Uniqueness
Each one of us is blessed with a different set of strengths – we are all different, we behave differently, think differently and have our own unique strengths and talents. The next time you find yourself comparing your own body to someone else’s perfect figure, or your modest scores to someone’s straight A’s, step back and look at what you have – and what they don’t. Remind yourself that you too are special.
Celebrate your Wins
This one’s highly underrated. A lot of us tend to suffer from burnout and lack of motivation. We fall into the endless cycle of comparing our lives with those around us, and feeling crappy and horrible about our own lives. That’s simply because we don’t really appreciate and celebrate our own wins. Pat yourself on the back when you need to – sometimes you will be the only motivation you need, and that’s okay.
Compete with Yourself
A little healthy competition is usually okay – it helps drive you and push you towards putting in more effort and hard work, and making the best of what you have. But if you feel other people’s successes put you down and demotivate you, stop comparing yourself with them and competing with them. Instead, focus your attention inward and look for ways to compete with your own self and try to do your best at everything.
Stay Away From the Triggers
Probably one of the simplest ways to avoid falling into the trap of comparison is to notice situations and people that tend to trigger you and make you feel bad about yourself. Avoid such people as much as you can. If there’s a person who’s constantly bragging about their wins and making you feel bad about yourself, realize that spending time with this person is a waste of time, excuse yourself, and go away.
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