The trouble with life isn’t that there is no answer, it’s that there are so many answers.~ Ruth Benedict
Talking to a young man today about his life and plans, I tried to give an example from a recent choice I made. And he said, “But you’ve experienced so much that you are very clear what you want in life. Me, I’m still wondering.” Unfortunately we were distracted and I couldn’t tell him that he was not really right!
In all honesty, I can say that at 52, I’m still figuring out many things about life. Still working on myself. Still groping in the dark sometimes. Still fumbling around.
So Many Answers
Because like Ruth Benedict says, there are so many answers. So many possibilities. So much I can do with my life. Many ways I can make a difference like I want to. But what’s the right thing for me to do? It’s often hard to decide. And I’m the kind of person who likes to plunge into things. Give them my all. And sometimes these decisions can come to haunt me.
Recent events have made me doubt my ability to make choices that are ‘safe’ for me. I have ended up getting hurt more than once, having given my all to a cause and find that I’ve allowed myself to be taken for a ride.
What I am very clear about is that I want to live authentically and be honest in my relationships with my significant others. I’m also clear that I will walk away from unscrupulous people without batting an eyelid. I will also stand up against injustice and speak out for victims of it.
Given my nature, I’m going to get up, start over and then risk again. The answers I’m looking for will come as I seek them within myself, following my heart and aligning my dreams to the needs of the world.
What about you? How do you find answers?
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Knowing the answers is just so elusive, even with you saying that, perhaps we never ever get there. We always may be get closer and closer to it, but never quite at the answer we are seeking. And again, sometimes, the best way is to leave the question as a question, not to prod it for an answer.
We can never be sure, can we? I guess we need to put on foot in front of the other and move forward.
I so agree to each word here. At 30 I’m also struggling and finding out the answers for my life.
I hope you find them soon, Jinal.
You are right Corinne for there are no definite answers as we battle challenges, wondering on the past or figuring out the future. While experience may equip us to better deal with things, there are flaws. I agree. March ahead is so easily said, I guess and life itself gets so complex or confusion.
I try to talk to myself and find answers by sitting in silence or while cleaning. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. 🙂
Unfortunately, in life there’s no hard and fast rule to deal with a situation. We all have to figure out what’s best for us. I too sometimes struggle but then I am pretty decisive… I may make wrong decisions but really don’t think back and regret. What you think is wrong now, must have been right at that time. We are allowed to make mistakes, learn and then move on. Don’t doubt yourself
Listening to my inner voice has served me well over time; its difficult to hear it at times but I try to follow my instincts. Good on you to decide to get up and have another go at it Corinne 🙂
When I need answer from life I turn around towards God. He is the ultimate for me. I truly believe that when he puts us in a situation then he’s the only one with solutions. And the answer is always there, you just need to look around.
Very thought provoking post. Every few years, I question my beliefs answers I thought I was certain about start to stand on shaky ground. I just tell myslef that “at the time, my answer was right” it’s the best I can come up with. I think we evolve when we question ourselves – nothing is ever certain is it?
It’s something I have always realised, that the answers will come to you when you least expect it. At 45, I, too, grope in the dark for answers, for the whys and the wherefores. But, as I wait for those answers to come, I also learn to keep living my life the way I want to, doing the right thing, doing my best. Whatever has to happen, will; whoever has to stay, will.
I feel the same way, Corinne. Often I wake up with no answers, no directions, at a complete loss and I wonder why didn’t the yesterdays prepared me better! That aren’t I supposed to be wiser and better equipped now to solve these silly problems! But that’s not how it works, isn’t it? At least I should be able to accept that fact of life by now. And sometimes, I find the answers and directions without even looking for them. Oh, the clarity it brings to me is so deceiving that I would begin to think of myself as someone who got it all figured out. That’s when tomorrow comes with more senseless questions. 🙂
I loved it when you said that you want to stay authentic to your self. I think that all through life, things around us will change. Life is not a math equation where we can find an answer and that is the one for ever and everybody. Like say Pythagoras theorem. So, as long as we know ourselves and do things that matter to us it is good.
Loved your thought provoking post, Corinne.
I liked the quote! Yes, there are so many answers that we are often confused what is right for us. For me, I try to talk to myself about it. I take a walk when I am confused about something.
Do we ever get all the answeres ?? Well I dont think so. thats why we go soul searching in life, seeking them all. I search for these answers all around me. SOmetimes in the babble of my kids, sometimes in conversations between strangers.. but I still havent got them all
Sorry, I totally seem to have missed this link, Corinne! Thanks for the reminder. I identify with all you say here. I have so many answers and know exactly what I want to achieve each day. The problem is I need at least double to number of hours per day if I’m going to get there! Thankful Thursday Week 19 and Tip on inviting folk to your blog.