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Growth - Personal Development - Word of the Year - Yes in 2021

Say Yes and Finish

When you say ‘Yes’ as I chose to this year, you might end up choosing to say ‘yes’ to too much! This hit me hard in July, when I realised that I had my head full of plans and things I had said ‘yes’ to, but not enough energy or time to follow through. So what did I do? Gave up. It was at the end of July that Jon Acuff’s book ‘Finish – Give Yourself The Gift of Done‘ found me!

Say Yes and Finish

Despite its somewhat lighthearted tone, Finish has some great wisdom in it. In fact, it seemed to have been written specifically for me. Thank you, Jon!

I’m a great starter, but a poor finisher. I realized that this has something to do with things not turning out just the way I want them to. So I start something, find it’s not ‘perfect’ and then give it up. This is why most of us fail to finish or sometimes even to start!

Perfectionism will do its best to knock you down when you work on a goal. At every turn, it will kick you in the shins, steal your lunch money, and fill you with doubt.

– Jon Acuff, Finish: Give Yourself The Gift Of Done

Here are some ideas from Finish that made so much sense to me and that I’m trying to incorporate into my life.

1. Cut your goal in half

Now isn’t that something? While popular culture encourages us take on more, here’s a guy telling us to take on less. He suggests that the goal be cut in half or double the timeline. Easy peasy!

crop unrecognizable woman writing goals for upcoming year in notepad
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2. Choose what to bomb

We can’t do it all. We have to give something up. This means we might have to give up doing something we love for something we love and care about even more!

It also means saying no. For example, you might have to call a halt to certain social events and activities if you want to write more.

When you can’t say ‘no’, then simplify. If for example, you have your children’s friends coming over – something you can’t say ‘no’ to, then keep things simple. Make the simplest meal or order in.

Also saying ‘no’ to every shiny object course, newsletter, group that excites you temporarily is important.

3. Leave Your Hiding Places and Ignore Noble Obstacles

This is what hit me the most, because it was such a reflection of what I do.

Photo by George Milton from Pexels

A hiding place is an activity you focus on instead of your goal. So, you might suddenly justify your need for fun when you watch Netflix instead of writing. Or more subtly, you could decide to do something that seems very productive, like organizing your desk. While there’s nothing wrong with doing that, you might actually be using this ‘hiding place’ to put off doing a more important project. Desk organization might also feed into your need for perfectionism, while your actual goal scares the perfectionist in you.

If you’re watching Netflix every time it’s time for you to do X, that’s a hiding place. You’re afraid to face the fear of imperfection that comes along with every endeavor, so you’re hiding from it by doing something that requires no skill. You might write a bad sentence on your blog, but no one’s going to critique the way you watch TV.

Jon Acuff, Finish: Give Yourself the Gift of Done

A noble obstacle is a virtuous sounding reason for not moving toward a finish. It’s you saying, ‘I can’t do X until Y’. Like someone saying, I won’t start my blog until I have at least 50 posts ready to be published.

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Noble obstacles?

Both of these activities are equally toxic. I’m always finding hiding places and noble obstacles to keep me from following my main goals and finishing them.

I need to focus on writing more and finish working on the goals I have to that end. But you get how trying to be perfect is something that can keep me from finishing what I really plan to do.

So in August, I’ve been working on making more realistic goals and trying to avoid getting side-tracked into doing other stuff or taking on too much. I’ve also been looking at what my hiding places and noble obstacles are.

I’ve tried to simplify things and not take on unnecessary things that don’t help with my goals. I started by killing the separate Instagram and Twitter accounts and Facebook pages I had for different blogs. I’ve created a common About page and clubbed my Instagram and Facebook and Twitter accounts.

It’s hard work throwing off old patterns of behaviour and adopting new ones, but I’m aiming to try my best to do this. Wish me luck!

What progress are you making with your Word of The Year for 2021?

Linking in to Lisa’s One Word 2021 Linkup for August.


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An inspirational writer, a creativity and writing trainer/coach, I write about life, gratitude, healing, wellness, relationships at Everyday Gyaan. I offer training/coaching to anyone looking to explore their creativity and heal through writing via The Frangipani Creative, located in Secunderabad, India. You can also find me on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter. Sign up for my weekly newsletter, Bytes of Gyaan, on Substack.

7 Comments on “Say Yes and Finish

  1. Wow! And Wow! Loved this post . Again I have to ask, “Did you get inside my head?’ This is written for me, I swear it is! Love the idea of hiding places and noble goals. I can already see the long list of them in my head!

  2. Hiding place and noble obstacles are so true about me. Probably, why I can never achieve 10 percent of my goals since couple of years where cutting goals in half may actually be a good place to start. Thanks for sharing this motivating book, Corinne.

  3. Um, are you talking to me, Corinne? 🙂 Your words are getting me right now of wanting things to be perfect. As I plan out my day, I’ll try to “cut my goal in half.” Thanks for sharing your wisdom! I need to read Jon Acuff’s book, too. Sharing this now on Twitter!

  4. This is an interesting post. It makes me introspect my own situation. Hiding place and notable obstacle are relevant terms. Where do I hide away when I have to make phone calls? And also when I have to receive phone calls ? I am an absolute rubbish with phone calls. My notable obstacle is “Let me make just one more round on my square before that phone call.” And later, “Just one more.” Later, “Okay one more.” After some time I decide I am not ready to make that phone call on that particular day and postpone it to the next day.
    Don’t ask me how my next day goes on to be
    I wish you have a fine day today, Corinne ❤️

  5. Wow! I never thought of having a hiding place but I totally do! Sometimes instead of writing I play games on my phone because it takes the stress away. But in reality I’m just hiding from my responsibilities. Great post! You really made me think about things differently. Thank you!

  6. To say I can relate is an understatement! I wanted to say yes to everything this year, especially after what’s been going on in the world and make the most of opportunity’s, but it’s left me more fatigued and multiple projects unfinished. I love the sound of Jon’s book, definitely have to give it a read myself.

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