I’m convinced that the quality of our lives is greatly determined by the questions we ask ourselves. Without asking questions, there can be no awareness of ourselves.
A few days ago, I was at a workshop, where we were asked to answer the question: ‘Who are you?’ That’s a fantastic question to start with. How you describe yourself, your beliefs, your life, your work will reveal to you some great insights about yourself.
Asking questions is what keeps us from becoming stagnant. Without questions there can be no growth.
Apparently when eagles build their nests, they make a foundation out of rough twigs and branches with thorns. Then they add soft leaves to make the dwelling comfortable for the chicks. As they grow, the chicks thrash about and scatter the soft leaves. The thorns then begin to make them uncomfortable. This is what motivates them to start taking flight and move out.
Life sometimes brings us discomfort and unhappiness. Rather than complain and resist, we should see these times as that we have to move and grow. It’s times like this that we have to constantly ask ourselves hard questions pertaining to what we really want to be, do and have in life. In daily life too, it’s the questions we ask ourselves that bring mindfulness and discipline to our life. Waking up and asking ourselves ‘What do I need to do today?’ ‘What do I want to achieve today?’ ‘How do I want to feel today?’
I recall that powerful question from Mary Oliver that continues to ring in my head: What do I want to do with this one wild and precious life?’
The best part about asking yourself questions is that you’ll find that you have the inner wisdom to answer them.
“The key to wisdom is knowing all the right questions.” – John Simone
- Carl Sandburg wrote, “It is necessary … for a (wo)man to go away by (herself)himself … to sit on a rock … and ask, ‘Who am I, where have I been, and where am I going?”
- Take a day off for yourself to reflect on these questions.
- Write down your answers.
- Come back to them after a month and see if they make sense to you. Ask the questions again.
Today I’m on ‘Q’ of the Blogging from A to Z April Challenge. My theme is the A to Z of Self Leadership.