My unicorn bolted taking with it my soul mate… And then I woke up and realized that both were dreams, or rather myths! Yes, unicorns and soul mates are the stuff of dreams!
Since I waited for years for my soul mate to appear, you can’t call me a cynic. No, I’d rather think of myself as being a convert to reality.
Of Unicorns and Soul Mates
I was fascinated by the concept of soul mates. I thought to myself, “There’s someone out there who will complete me. How wonderful.” And so began my rather fruitless search for a soul mate.
The search took me down a path that caused me pain – as I kept facing rejection from people I thought fitted my soul mate bill. They didn’t complete me, but succeeded in eroding my self-belief.
Only when I realized that I didn’t need anyone to complete me and when I took responsibility for myself and my happiness, did I find someone who could share my life with me – my husband.
He doesn’t complete me and I don’t complete him – thank God. We have shared values, some common interests but very different tastes in most other things. He actively encourages me to pursue my dreams and lets me be myself. And I hope that he can say that I give him the space to be himself.
I’m afraid that too many of us are putting happiness and love on hold in our quest for that person who will complete us.
The news is that soul mates don’t exist. Only you can be your own soul mate. Only you can give your soul the nourishment it needs to grow and blossom. Similarly our mates, our family, our friends can only tend to their own souls.
All we can do is hold hands and walk each other home on our soul journeys!
Do you believe in soul mates?
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Do I believe in soulmates? My answer will be yes and no. I do not believe in it staunchly and yet I do not deny it. While this subject may be as mythical as unicorns, the one thing I am clear about is to hold the hands of the people present in our lives, giving them their space, walk them home, walk with them home and walk myself home alone if I have to.
There are soul mates who needn’t necessarily be your spouse. On the other hand you may never have a soul mate yet be complete in every way. Like unicorns soulmates too are myths .
Wow, completing someone is a huge assignment, and I’m certainly glad my husband is not looking for that in me. It’s a huge weight to put on a relationship and likely to crush it.
I don’t know about “soul mates”; but I do think it’s possible to find one person you want to spend your life with. Nobody can “complete” another person, but they can add an element to their lives that was previously missing.
Not exactly , you can’t just write it off with words like ,Like unicorns soulmates too are myths” , not really! Soul mates are something that you find from your mindset, accepting yourself and communicating with yourself which you are able to transfer to another soul, who understand you and accept you as you are!
We are our own soulmates; we have been put on this earth for a purpose and each have their own purpose. We all need to first learn to figure out our own journey and then add someone to our life. Its only when we figure out, we realise what we need and what we dont!
Lovely thought process Corinne!
I don’t believe in soulmates and yes, I think we are our own soul mates. We don’t need anyone to complete us but rather, if they are there, they need to add to our lives and we need to add to theirs. Lovely post Corinne!
Corinne I do believe in soulmates, soul sisters, soul friends and so on so forth. But I also don’t believe that they come into our lives only to complete us.
Yes, we need to feel complete, whole and one with ourselves, before we can ask someone else to validate their love for us. WE need to be validated in self love, before we rush around in our quest to look for a soul mate.
I strongly believe we are karmically tied to a most people we meet in this life. It’s a cycle that transponds many a life times.
Just my two cents on this thought-provoking post of yours. 🙂
I haven’t thought about this before. Soul-mate I guess is a fancy word. The real thing is a partner or a person who you want to spend your life with. They will not complete you but will complement you. In some ways, they can do things what you can’t.
You posed a good question there and when I think of the years I met VT, I wasn’t looking for a soulmate. I was looking for friend who I spend my life with.