Recently, I was indirectly told off by someone for not attending a family gathering. I was reminded that life is short and we must get together at every possible function.
Life Is Short! So What?
Why didn’t I attend the gathering? Because I’m done with meaningless conversations, with playing charades and with playing happy families! I’m done with being put down at every possible opportunity. I’m done with people trying to compete with me when I’m not even in the race! Of having so called family lying about and to me.
That person was right. Life is short. All the more reason for me not be unhappy. Even more reason for me not to engage with people who drain me of energy. It’s too short for me have to think ten times before I say anything. I’m fed up of having everything I say being challenged. I no longer want to be a victim of gaslighting.
Family is often an over-rated institution. You do not have to put up toxicity in the name of family. You don’t have to tolerate constant bad behaviour.
I’ve realized that we choose our family. We choose the people who make us feel good about ourselves. People who don’t hesitate to tell us when we’re wrong, yet will stand up for us and remind us of our goodness when we’ve forgotten about it.
You may or may not agree with my choices or my view of family. I really want to know what you feel.
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