Life and Inspiration

Hot Or Cold?

bathroom #15Did you ever play ‘Hot or Cold’ as a child?

It goes like this. One player is ‘It’ and leaves the room or play area. The other players decide on an item for him/her to guess – a ceiling fan, a book, a pillow. When s/he returns, everyone says “hotter” as s/he gets closer or “colder” if s/he is farther from the item until s/he guesses it.

Some of us continue to play that game into our adulthood too.  We don’t really know what we want in life and drift along. Or we want to play the game according to the rules set out by society.  We  wait for society to yell out “hotter” or “colder” as we go through life.  The latest BMW gets a shout of “hotter”.  Designer clothes and designer life-style, and we’re definitely “hotter”.  Chucking up that fantastic banking career and following your heart, gets a shout of “colder”.  Deciding to be a stay-at-home woman, certainly earns “colder.”  And so it goes, until you decide to opt out of the game.  I did – and have no regrets.

Today, I’m linking in to Betty:Today’s Baker via BlogFEST 2012. Betty’s prompt is: Hot or Cold?

Do you play hot or cold in life?




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An inspirational writer, a creativity and writing trainer/coach, I write about life, gratitude, healing, wellness, relationships at Everyday Gyaan. I offer training/coaching to anyone looking to explore their creativity and heal through writing via The Frangipani Creative, located in Secunderabad, India. You can also find me on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter. Sign up for my weekly newsletter, Bytes of Gyaan, on Substack.

21 Comments on “Hot Or Cold?

  1. I love the way you explore these everyday themes and come out with such meaningful and thought provoking posts!
    Very true, it’s best to opt out of this game, else, sooner or later, you’ll burn out and will be left all alone out there in the cold!

  2. Oh, yes I have played it (in India).

    But, I used to play outside (along with few kids around the block).

    What we usually do is play it with something small – like a cricket ball or even smaller – a paper pin (it is actually fun to play for a while – especially after playing another [tiresome] game such as cricket or football/soccer).

  3. Yes, indeed, Corinne, I remember that game so well and played it with my own children. I love how you’ve used this to tie into what society “expects” of us when what we need to do is realize and pursue the goals that make our lives truly “hot” :). An inspired reminder!

  4. Ohh… how true! The society always waits to yell hotter/colder…. Just that we ought to find what is really hot/cool for us, for our own lives and follow it…. I too have opted not to listen tot he society and follow my passion… and yes, there were/are still comments from people… but once we make up our minds, i guess we learn to grow beyond others’ hot/cold verdict!
    I’ve been a silent reader and admirer of you blog, and thought of dropping you comments now on 🙂 Love your blog!

  5. I never played that game before, although I can guess what people are saying about my drift from nursing to writing. People may always share their opinions but I think we should always be the one to decided when it’s hot or cold.

  6. it plays better than it lives… 🙂 love the analogy! I play this game with my kids… a lot! They love it, especially when I get really silly and dramatic with the extremes of getting hotter/colder. I am chuckling now thinking about comparing this to life and how much my life improves when ‘I don’t play’ (in life… okay with kids, not so much in life)!

  7. I do remember playing this game.. even into adulthood. one day I found some bravery in me and walked out of the game into life and reality.. I have not regretted it either..As always…XOXOXOXOXO

  8. Very true!

    I have set a time-limit for myself when I want to be out of this never ending rat race. No for anyone else but for myself..!!

    Till the time that I am here, I have to abide by the rules and give my 100%.

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