Sometimes life is difficult. It’s hard to get through each day. This has been especially true for many of us during the pandemic. While those of us who are introverts don’t really feel the effects of not socialising (perhaps, we’re secretly grateful for it), others are finding it really tough. There are plenty of other reasons why we might be struggling with life. Sometimes we’re overcome by grief. Other times we never seem to catch a break – lurching from one crisis to another. Over the years, I’ve learned to look at things through the lens of gratitude. I’ve learned to find what Kristi Nelson calls grateful perspectives.
I find that with gratitude accepting every that happens to us is possible.
Now gratitude is not a simple attitude of thanks for all the good things we have, although sometimes we struggle with that too. But an attitude of thanks for what we don’t have. An attitude of gratefulness for all the challenges and the not so great stuff that is part of our life. That’s what I like to call radical gratitude!
What doesn’t work for me is making a list of all the things I’m grateful for. I was one of the people who started the monthly Gratitude Circle in which we shared things we’re grateful for in the month just past. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with the lists or the gratitude journals, they just aren’t meaningful for me any longer.
Also, I try my best not to do ‘comparative gratitude’. For example, I don’t really like the food choices I have, but I’m grateful that I have food when so many others don’t.
I believe that having a grateful perspective on life is saying: this is me, this is my life – the gift that I’ve been given. I’m absolutely grateful for every minute of it and I’m going to live it to the full. I’m going to laugh hard, love generously and grieve deeply and be the best I can be.
Gratitude makes living a full life possible.
PS: I’ve just finished reviewing Wake Up Grateful – read my review here.