A lot of people get cynical when it comes to relationships. It seems the notion of finding your one true love and forever partner are impossible nowadays. Breakups and divorce are all too common. How then can you deepen your relationship with your partner?
Before I proceed, further, I’d like to say that I’m not an expert on relationships. I’ve been married 13 years and we’ve been through a lot together and come out stronger for it. What I’m sharing comes from a lot of reading, learning and experience. Before we got married, we went for a mandatory (by the Catholic Church) Marriage Preparation course. While it could have been better, we did get something out of it.
If you’re really struggling in your relationship, and still wondering about committing to someone long-term or questioning getting engaged, I’d advise you to read this article on pre-engagement counseling.
With all the temptations and the busyness, can you really strengthen your relationship? Can you deepen your relationship with your partner?
Yes, you can.
7 Ways to Deepen Your Relationship with Your Partner
#1 Make time
Your career is important, but who do you work hard for? What is the purpose of you trying to make it big? Isn’t it to live a comfortable life with your partner? It will be useless to afford the good life and yet lose the people you live for. If you will allow it, the world can take away your time from your loved ones. Make time for your partner before you start drifting apart.
Your partner is not a mind reader. Neither are you. Most problems arise because a small conflict becomes big through time, because it was not talked about or settled in the first instance. Talk about what bothers you. Talk about what you need. Let your partner know what is needed to work things out. And don’t forget to listen. Communication is a two-way process.
#3 Be respectful
Just because you need to be open to each other does not mean you can talk the way you want to. Keep conversations respectful. Don’t disrespect your partner by yelling or throwing insults at each other. Respect your partner’s time by being there when they request you to. Respect your partner’s opinion. Nobody wants to stick around a disrespectful person. I believe that respect is often more important than love.
#4 Understand each other’s differences
Your partner is different from you, no matter how similar you two may be. They have their own quirks, their unique habits or personality. Understand that they have different views because they were raised in a different household; they may have different cultures and beliefs. You cannot insist on what you believe in or know to be final. It is best to just understand and accept their uniqueness.
#5 Know their love language
We all speak different love languages. Know if it’s words, service, gifts, touch, or time and give them more of it. Your partner will appreciate your demonstration of love if you respond to their love language well.
#6 Be adventurous
Do something new together. Travel to a place you’ve never been to before together. Try a new hobby or activity together. Break the monotony of the routine in your everyday lives by doing something different and out of the ordinary once in a while. This will enable you to also look at your partner in a different way, especially if you’ve been together for a long time.
#7 Give space
Time away from your partner can actually deepen your relationship when done right. You need to give each other enough space to grow. Let your partner be if they need some alone time. Some people need me-time to recharge so they can be better. Let them celebrate their individuality. Allow them to spend time with their friends. Give them time for personal development.
Remember: Relationships take time to grow. Don’t let your relationship die by not giving it proper care. Nourish your relationship.