From bringing to you the theory of relativity to the famous Harry Potter series, introverts have done a lot of good, and why not? Not being surrounded by people can sometimes be quite refreshing and can allow you to focus more on what you truly love to do. If you’re an introvert that finds social situations tiring and off-putting, there are ways that you can have a good social life as an introvert.
5 Ways to Have a Good Social Life as an Introvert
#1 Get Out Once a Week
The simplest and most practical way to get started onto building a social circle is to get out atleast once every week and put yourself out there. Even if it does feel forced for a while, do it. When you do get out though, make sure you set realistic expectations- don’t expect to make a friend that has exactly your thoughts and ideas on day 1 itself. You’ll come across different types of people, and while some may not be the right fit for you, some others will.
If you already have friends, make it a point to meet them occasionally just to catch up and see what they’re up to. Nurture those friendships.
I’m very picky with whom I give my energy to. I prefer to reserve my time, intensity, and spirit exclusively to those who reflect sincerity.Dau Voire
#2 Be Real
If you’re out meeting a group of new people, remind yourself to be real and true to yourself. Don’t pretend to be what you aren’t just to fit in the crowd. Be yourself and the right people will find you. Don’t pretend to be an extrovert and over friendly- it’ll only wear you out faster than you can imagine.
Though introverts are drained by interaction, we can take immense pleasure in watching the scene around us.– Laurie Helgoe
# 3 Join a Group
Another great way to get started and have a good social life is to be a part of a group that revolves around something you’re interested in. For instance, if you love reading, you could get enrolled at a nearby library or book swap. If you’re into yoga, you could consider joining a yoga class- you get the drill. That way, you’ll have a common ground between you and the people you’ll be meeting.
For introverts, who have limited energy for interaction, we need to be more thoughtful and deliberate about whom we meet—which, happily, is what we do best.Laurie Helgoe
#4 Use Open Ended Questions
Once you’re in the right social setting, it is time to open up and make conversation. If you’re having trouble with that, you can ask open ended questions- something that could get the person you’re talking to go on without you having to drop in for comments. For instance, instead of asking someone where they went to college, ask them what they liked about their college.
#5 Go Where You’re Comfortable
Introverts don’t see life as one big cocktail party. We’re content with just a few meaningful relationships.Jenn Granneman
Last, but definitely not the least, go where you’re actually comfortable. Be ready to step outside your comfort zone and make new connections, but spend more time and be loyal to only those that you actually like being around. Don’t force yourself to be a part of a certain circle just because you think they’re the only ones. Choose quality over quantity. Always.