Tinker, tailor, soldier, sailor……..goes the nursery rhyme, but when I meet some people or hear about them from others, in my mind the rhyme goes ‘Whinger wailer…..’ I’m mean that way 😉
It never fails to amaze me how some people constantly want others to feel sorry for them. So every time you encounter them, they’ll have a new list of woes or an update on the old one. One particular person, Ms Moanalisa is constantly whingeing (I just realized this word is mostly used in British English so you can find the meaning here) about how badly life is treating her, and yet I see constant updates of parties attended and holidays had. Don’t get me wrong, this person is not depressed. No, there’s nothing depressed about her.
But perhaps, it is a way of getting attention or just a reflection of how they view life. Either way, it reflects a poverty of spirit. Constantly seeking attention for and focusing on what’s wrong in one’s life can be a huge drain on one’s energy. Also you begin to attract to yourself people who enable even encourage this behavior, because it gives them a chance to feel good when they ‘reach out’ to you.
We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same. ~ Carlos Castaneda
I have found that the easiest way out of unhappiness is to focus on all that’s good in your life. You can’t be grateful and unhappy at the same time. So the ‘work’ you have to do to be happy is to start listing out all that you’re grateful for.
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I know such people too. They are such energy drainers…
I get you Corinne. Every one has one or two such people in their life.. I call them dementors, they suck the positivity around you.
Life is short and some people are hell bent on making it shorter for themselves in terms of quality. Rather they are in utter dark about it. As you rightly said, it reflects poverty of soul/ spirit. I am so allergic to such people. Naturally keep myself at safe distance from them.
Luckily I don’t encounter many people like this. Admittedly sometimes I can be negative but I’m not a chronic whinger. Life is hard enough without making it harder.
I hear you. Best is to delete them from life and move on. Life is short to live with negative people around.
True… One cannot be grateful and unhappy at the same time. All the energy to whinge can always go to a better cause. Love the positive thoughts in your post Corinne.
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I get it . I met such people who try to get sympathy always. I am just the opposite. Even when iam deep in problems I don’t like to get sympathy. May be the other end of spectrum
Oh my my! Just today I was talking to someone who keeps on complaining about things and I was thinking about the same thing you wrote here. Some people never see any light any where. I wonder where the thinking goes for a toss and why so much whining or whingeing? 🙂
Universe wanted me to read this post today, Corinne 🙂