A recent HuffPo article talks about 7 Things You Should Never Apologize For
- Going to bed early
- Saying no
- Taking a vacation
- Letting go of a toxic friendship
- Not answering that e-mail right away
- Snagging alone time
- Putting yourself first
Remember Pantene’s #ShineStrong campaign video that suggests we women apologize too much?
I know I’ve been an ‘apologizer’ for much of my life – always feeling bad about saying no or imagining that my actions were inconveniencing people. I paid too much attention to other people’s feelings. When I had enough of being a wimp, I became a rebel – and ended up not caring for those that really mattered. Not healthy behaviour either.
As I’m getting older, wisdom is seeping into my head (in direct proportion to the grey hair I’m proudly displaying!) and I’m attempting to find a balance. I no longer apologize for asking for what I need, for being passionate about my beliefs, for asserting myself, for cutting myself off from the phone or contact when I need to……….
No, I don’t go out of my way to be rude or offensive to anyone – it’s just not my style. But if someone messes with me, even indirectly, then I’ll take them on or just cut them off. I no longer make apologies for cutting people off. I also don’t believe in ‘sorting things out’ with people I have no respect for and no longer wish to have a relationship with.
Perhaps, I come off as being arrogant, but that’s certainly not my intention. I try to live as authentically as I can and if that offends someone else, then it’s just too bad and I’m not going to apologize for that.
Do you find yourself apologizing a lot?
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