I’ve often fallen behind in my journey towards being more authentic and assertive. I will assert myself and then fall back into being a wimp. For too long, I’ve been concerned about doing what’s perceived as the right thing or allowing duty to dictate my actions. Recent events in my life have made me sit up and take close notice of my behaviour and how I’ve allowed a few people to trample over my feelings, use and discard me. I hate drama and I hate playing games. But some people seem to push me towards both. No more. Today I’m affirming that a lot has changed.
A Lot Has Changed
A lot has changed
I’m not the same person
I once was.
So don’t expect me to
To behave the way
I did in the past.
I’ve taken a stand
And it’s going to last.
Your games and devices
Are not going to wash
I’m not falling for
That load of tosh.
Guilt and blame
Will no longer shame
This woman
Who has seen through your game.
A lot has changed
You had better note
I won’t take lightly
All that you wrote.
I know what I’ve done
For you and your tribe
So to your attitude
I won’t subscribe.
You’d better respect me
I’ll have you know
Or I’ll just move away
And let you go.
I respect myself and insist upon it from everybody. And because I do it, I then respect everybody, too. – Maya Angelou
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I know I have lost a lot personally because of not standing up for my beliefs at times… trying to accomodate the ‘drama’ of everyone else.
Of recent times, I have become moderately more stricter, I guess. Though I doubt it can be really considered stern by normal standards (insert facepalm here)
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It happens to givers who are selfless and often taken for granted. Now, I am trying to do things that doesn’t trample my identity as a person and even if it means being selfish but staying true to myself. Corinne, your post speaks directly to me.
You tend to suffer, in your bid to please others. I too have fallen prey to this time and again. Great post!
Family drama is the worst, isn’t it (I suspect there is some family drama at work here) you are right. Life is too short. Walk away. Run away. Now, if only I could learn that.
Try as I might, it’s my basic nature that I can’t change…and that is what gets me in trouble – the emotional sort. 🙁
Often a times it’s better to just move away and let things go. It helps to maintain peace. So much depth in those rhymes.
Love the rhyme! Change is the only constant and I reckon if people can’t handle the change in you, they’re not worth it. 🙂
Ironically, the times I’ve been the LEAST pleased with others is when I sense them sacrificing themselves for ME. There’s a happy balance; if you’re happy (genuinely so, not greedily slurping up all the happiness and leaving nothing for others, but looking after your own needs in a healthy, but still compassionate, way – others around you will be happier, too. No one loves a martyr – at least not the ones who are still living, reminding them every five minutes of their martydom! 🙂 It’s a GOOD thing to be assertive, if you can do it and still be kind. Takes practice when you’re conditioned from childhood not to be. In that, I’m quite lucky.
When one is selfless people tend to take their kindness for granted. It is important to show them where they belong!
I hope you successes Corinne.
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